Listen to the Show here: Dealing Delicately with Difficult People
May 2011
Guest: Monica Wafford
Monica’s Website: Monica Wafford Companies

Change Thrivers Tip by Monica:

In any communication scenario, the more you can be authentic, be honest, be clear and be kind, the more effective your communication will be. When we communicate that way, we find that people will respond in similar way. The communication dialogue flows as opposed to being stalled.

The authenticity is key because it shows who you really are. The honesty is key because you talk about what your need really is. The clarity is key because it fosters understanding. And the kindness is important because there is so much stress, so much negativity and so much difficulty in the world which we live that is easy to fuel a reactionary pattern for most of us. When people expect you to be less than kind, a simple kind word can elevate the level of understanding and communication to a platform that maybe you didn’t expect but are glad to receive.

Listen to the Show here: Write Down Your Soul to Activate the Voice Within
May 16, 2011
Guest: Janet Connor
Janet’s Website

Change Thrivers Tips By Janet Connor:

1. Give yourself the gift of STOP. The one gift we can all give ourselves is the gift of time. It can be just a few minutes, but for those five or ten minutes, get off the go-go train we ride all day and just be still. Deep soul write or meditate or just sit and breathe. Allow. Allow your inner knowing, that wise loving Voice, to speak to you. In the silence, you will find your way.
2. Pick up a pen. Don’t wait until you’ve finished reading Writing Down Your Soul. Take a breath, set your intention, address the Voice by name and begin.  It’s a life-long conversation. You can start it today whether you know all the ins and outs or not. Release any expectations of what it “ought” to be like. Just begin. You’ll find the Voice is a loving, gentle presence and is oh so happy you’ve come to talk.
3. Ask for guidance. Ask for guidance on the page in your deep soul writing, in your mind, in your prayers, as you’re falling asleep. All day and night long, ask for help. Help will come. It may come in forms you didn’t expect, but it will come.
4. Pay attention. Everyone has innate spiritual intelligence, we just don’t use it. By starting to become aware of your spiritual intelligence, you strengthen and expand it, just like a muscle used in exercise. How do you exercise your spiritual intelligence? Pay attention to your intuition, your gut feelings, your emotions, synchronicities, books and messages that come your way, invitations, dreams…. There is no end to the ways guidance works with us once we begin to pay attention.
5. Maximize your natural time in theta. As we awaken from sleep each and every one of us moves through the theta brain wave state—the only state in which we have access to break through thinking and true creativity. So use it. In the morning, lie perfectly still, don’t open your eyes. Just lie there and allow information and ideas to flow to you. Train yourself to lie still for longer and longer periods of time. Any question can be solved just resting in theta.
6. Go on a media diet. Especially if you are in a fearful state right now or prone to pick up other people’s fear. The media and our political systems are designed to keep us afraid so we’ll turn to them to tell us how to stay safe. Fear is the absolute worst thing for your soul. Your soul is not naturally fearful. It is not afraid of life; it chose life. So help yourself by stepping away from the waves of things to be afraid of coming over the TV and internet and radio. If you can’t limit all TV, at least don’t watch any news before bed.
7. Eat lots of “soul food.” In place of your media diet, feed your soul with lots of rich spiritual books and practices. Listen to loving uplifting messages. Read mystical poetry. Write down your soul. Pray. Sit in nature. Be still and know that you are loved.

Listen: Go To ELF – Teachings of Eternal Life Force

Show description: If you are interested in the role of spirituality in your day-to-day life, Rev. Lauren McLaughlin, an ordained Unity Minister and author of “Go to ELF – Teachings of the Eternal Life Force” talks about why and how we are all connected to THE ETERNAL LIFE FORCE, how to cooperate with the LAW OF ATTRACTION, Power of gratitude, how and why affirmations work and how the ELF steps forward to help those who embrace change and allow for Spirit to participate in the natural unfoldment of our life experience.

 Change Thrivers Tips

One of the tools that The ELF offers Tony and Frankie, the main characters of the book “Go To ELF”, to help them conquer forever their ingrained feelings of “not good enough” is a powerful list of Spirit-fed AFFIRMATIONS. When these 12 “statements of Truth” are repeated 12 times a day for 12 weeks, they will help to elevate feelings of self worth, conscious and subconscious.

 Affirmations:

1. I am the perfect creation of the Eternal Life Force.
2. There is no other person on this planet exactly like me.
3. I am intimately connected to all of the power of the Universe.
4. The Eternal Life Force loves me all the time.
5. I am who I am and I allow others to be who they are.
6. I am a limitless being.
7. I ask for what I want and I receive it.
8. I am a healthy, wealthy child of the Eternal Life Force.
9. Love, peace and joy abound in my life.
10. I am filled with a sense of well-being.
11. I am joyful and I am grateful.
12. Things always work out for me.

Designing Your Day:
Designing Your Day is the act of stating your intention – each morning -  to have the next 24 hours evolve according to your general design.  Using the Law of Attraction or the Law of Mind Action as your standard, you know that what you hold in your mind as steady thought , especially thought backed by emotion, will manifest in your life experience.  So Designing your Day simply involves holding in mind specific thoughts about the way in which you would like your life to unfold, day by day, according to your plan.  Do we mean precisely pre-planning each daily event?  No – not only would that not be possible, but in fact it would take all of the surprises out of life.  No surprises = no fun and life is supposed to be fun.  But we do mean setting the tone for your day in general categories so that your life doesn’t take off on its own in a direction that you don’t want it to go.

By Rev. Lauren McLaughlin Unity Now Website

About Rev. Lauren McLaughlin

Lauren McLaughlin is part of a team of thousands of teachers on the planet at this time, whose purpose is to remind those who wish to remember that they are deeply and dearly loved by the creator and sustainer of all life, that the answers to the most important questions they have are carefully stored in their own heart, and that they deliberately chose the human experience for the sheer fun of it.

Lauren is an ordained Unity Minister, a writer, speaker, and retreat facilitator who is currently living happily-ever-after with her husband, John, in Clearwater, Florida.

Listen to the show: Releasing Unfinished Business to Improve the Quality of Your Life

Show description: Eileen Broer, President of The Human Dimension, walks us through the steps to complete Unfinished Business – even when it includes someone who can’t or won’t meet us halfway – or when we’re not able or ready to confront the other person.

Change Thrivers Tips

9 Facts about Unfinished Business

1. Occurs when experiences are not completed for some reason.
2. Often due to avoidance or conflict.
3. Contains memories and associations that still have “voltage” or emotional energy. Finished Business does not maintain “voltage.”
4. Stays in the memory with two to three times the force of Finished Business.
5. Drains energy.
6. Becomes a rigid, fixed pattern that keeps demanding to be re-experienced.
7. The hope that if we re-experience it, it will come out differently, and we will get what we want.
8. Relationships will give us an opportunity to re-create the experience (feelings).
9. The more Unfinished Business we can release, the more we are available for new experiences.

 4 Common Reactions to Unfinished Business

1. You avoid the person involved.
2. You do not want anyone else to have a good relationship with that person either.
3. You make unkind remarks about her/him.
4. You do not support her/his ideas, feelings, etc.

A few of the topics discussed during the show:

1. How do I know, if I have unfinished business?
2. Why we may be hurting ourselves by not completing our unfinished business.
3. How do we complete it?
4. How do we release Unfinished Business with someone who can’t or won’t meet us halfway or is no longer around?

About Eileen Broer:

As an Executive Coach, Coaches’ Coach, President of the Human Dimension consultancy, and Vice President of three Fortune 500 companies, Eileen has worked with executives and leaders at all levels.  Eileen has helped people in all walks of life complete unfinished business, including at the top levels of organizations.  In her 25 years as an Organizational Development Consultant, she has also facilitated countless teams to surface and complete their unfinished business.  She is a Master Facilitator and Transformational Teacher. 

Another recent interest of Eileen is Educating, Supporting and Celebrating Indigo and Crystal Children, Youth and Adults, and their Parents, Teachers, Grandparents, and other Caregivers. To learn more about her visit her websites: HumanDimension and Elayna

Topic: Choose The Game
Guest : Kathy Potts  
Listen: http://www.changethrivers.com/choose-the-game/ 
Show description: If you’re ready to make this your break-out New Year, and go from being stuck to being unstoppable, from thinking about your best to being your best, Kathy is here to show you the way. The tools she shares are tools she uses with her Executive clients, coaching them to focus beyond the hardships to the lessons they’re learning from the adversity.

Change Thrivers Tips
6 Steps to Creating Your Winning Approach

Choosing the game is about knowing how to bring options into your life.  When you are facing adversity, take a moment to get clear about the part you play, and what you really want.  Here is a quick guide of questions you can ask to move through the adversity and on with whatever you have been trying to achieve:

1. What am I trying to achieve at this time?
2. Which character is keeping me from performing at my best
   • Rage Machine
   • The Thinker
   • Pity Partier
   • Mr/s Needy
   • Shipwreck Survivor
3. Even though it may not be ‘good’ for me, what am I getting out of my current ‘attitude’ (e.g. being justified, staying in control, comfort/safety, etc.)?
4. What is this ‘attitude’ costing you (e.g. enjoyment in my job; finally developing my skills; long term health; relationships; etc.)?
5. If I keep it up…what intrinsic need is ultimately going unfulfilled(e.g. achievement, accuracy, applause, harmony)?
6. What am I willing to do NOW to move forward?

By Kathy Potts www.oncoreperformancegroup.com

A few of the topics discussed through Kathy’s personal stories:

• Even when we don’t think that we have choices, we do.
• When your heart and head come together you will find the path to happiness.
• Optimism and adversity are the two side of the same coin.
• Hitting the rock bottom can be the new beginning for a future of your choosing.

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About Kathy Potts:

Kathy’s customized  personal accountability system blends tools that manage the head and the heart.  Her approach to motivation management guides conference participants and coaching clients alike, towards choosing their game and performing at  their personal best. Kathy owns Oncore Performance Group, LLC, a company aimed at helping clients discover how to strike a balance of head and heart as they reach for goals. Learn more on Kathy’s website: Oncore Performance Group

Listen to the show: Language of Understanding

Extroverts: Get their energy from interaction with their environment and other people. They want to process the change externally by talking and discussing their thoughts and feelings about it.

Introverts: Get their energy from solitude and are drained by people. They want time to think and reflect about the change and process it internally before discussing it with others.

Sensors: Rely on their 5 senses to perceive the world. They are practical, realistic and detail oriented. Their motto is “If it is not broken, don’t fix it”. They need to know why the change must occur. Then they want specifics of what is changing and details of what is expected of them.

Intuitives: Rely on their intuition to take in the world. They are inventive, conceptual and big picture oriented. Interested in whether or not the changes fit their ideas of what should happen and how they affect the big picture. They like to participate in designing the future.

Thinkers: Make decisions based on logical analysis and ‘Cause & effect”. They evaluate the situation from outside. They need logical explanation for the change and that it will be fair to everyone.

Feelers: Make decisions based on personal values and impact on others. They tend to evaluate the situation as if they are personally in it. They are more concerned about how everyone will be affected by the change and that all involved are treated with compassion and care.

Judgers: Are decisive and like life to be planned and orderly. They find comfort in schedules and structure. When things change, they want plans, schedules, priorities and to know who is supposed to do what.

Perceivers: Are receptive to change and enjoy having options. They like to go with the flow and be flexible. They find comfort in living spontaneously. In changing situations, they want to have flexibility in the plans and schedules so they can respond to new information that might require even more change.

About Afsaneh Noori:

Iranian born and raised, Afsaneh and her immediate family moved to the United States in 1974. Migration was a major change that marked the way she perceived life from that point on. Moving from Middle East to USA at 20, Iran’s Revolution and execution of her loved ones, Going from riches to rags, Multiple marriages and divorces, Becoming a mother, discovering her sexual orientation at 48, Leaving corporate life to start a business and become a spiritual teacher are among the changes that she has made work in her life and that gives her the passion to help others through change.

Afsaneh launched her newest project, Change Thrivers in 2006 based on her book Change Thrivers- Your Resource Guide for Making Change Work. In Change Thrivers, Afsaneh draws upon her 20 years of organizational consulting experience as well as her personal journey towards self-discovery. Through Change Thrivers, Afsaneh teaches individuals how to embrace change and realize their undiscovered potential. From books and keynote speeches to seminars, tele-series, workshops, coaching and a radio show, Afsaneh’s Change Thrivers empowers people to successfully navigate the uncertainty of change by understanding the nature of change and trusting the process of life.

People react to change in different ways depending on many factors including their personality. This program is based on the theories of Myers-Briggs type indicator. Understanding the concept of personality differences offers you a window to other ways of thinking and behaving that are different than your own and increases your appreciation for others.

Change Thrivers Tips:

Listen to the show: Living a Life of no Regrets

Change Thrivers Tips

Lore Raymond shared two tips with us on the show:

1. Write a “Gratitude in Advanced” list every morning as you think about your day and what you would like to see happen.
2. Answer the question “If I died tomorrow, one thing I would regret not having done …” Find a picture that is the answer to that question and title it as a statement of what you want as if it has already happened. Keep that as vision in front of you to remind you often.

Change Thrivers are by definition, those who have faced struggle, sometimes to near extinction, and walked through the fire as a newly-forged woman emerging stronger, deeper, truer and clearer than she was before, Change Thrivers have felt the heat.  The definition also fits our speaker this week, Lore Raymond. 

About Lore Raymond:

In 1999, Lore had just sold her home, was newly separated from her husband and jobless on the island of Roatan, Honduras. Lore decided at age 45 to become a single mom.  An ex-patriate, she was without country, friends or family for support.  As a Change Thriver, Lore put herself to work moving her life from LESS to MORE and is successfully now supporting other women’s visions as the founder and “Chief Inspirator” of Women as Visionaries; her organizations empowers women’s visions  through global connections, education and travel. www.WomenAsVisionaries.com. 

Lore shares her true story of Living a Life of No Regrets, to shine the truth on what is possible – despite the screeching about the probability, statistical deniability, inaccessibility or incomprehensibility of the inaccurate voice of “reason” inside our heads.  Lore has dedicated herself to helping others transform and re-invent themselves.  She’s a world humanitarian, speaker, and spiritual coach focusing on Opening Hearts to Inspire Action.

Come join Lore, and learn why Living a Life of No Regrets is your birthright and your calling, and how to tap into the adventurous little girl inside your heart that’s just waiting to be given permission – from YOU – to go AWOL.

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Listen to the show: Living Your Intentional Life

Ten Qualities of an intentional life with self, mates, family, community and the world at large

1. Tell the truth/be true to yourself.
2. Develop a practice of meditation/prayer.
3. Experience and express gratitude daily.
4. Put your vision in writing.
5. Pay conscious attention to thoughts, actions, words.
6. Infuse your life with self-generated ritual.
7. Create and nurture Sacred Space in your environment.
8. Live life with passion and purpose.
9. Encourage a playful and open heart.
10. Learn to experience forgiveness.

About Therese Tappouni:

Therèse has combined wisdom and insight to create a spiritual path for her life and work. She is a Time Dimension Therapist, Certified Clinical and Medical Hypnotherapist, and Somatic Intuitive Practitioner while acting daily as CEO of ISIS Institute and Whole Heart. However, she creates her life’s work most typically through the written word and workshops. Her book The Promise: Revealing the Purpose of Your Soul, was a 2008 winner of the Independent Book Publishers Award’s bronze medal in women’s issues. Therèse leads workshops for women based on Walking Your Walk and The Promise, and also co-conducts workshops for couples and singles focusing on relationship as well as writing workshops solo and with her partner. www.IsisInstitute.org

Listen to the show here: Social Media Marketing for the overwhelmed entrepreneur

Top 5 Social Media Marketing Tips

1. Have a laser-focused strategy that supports your business sales cycle
2. Do keyword research on your target market
3. Determine where your target market congregates online
4. Choose the top 3 to 5 social networking sites your target market frequents  (i.e. Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, iWomanLife)
5. Do not blast sales offers in every post – you will be deleted, defriended, blacklisted or hidden

Kathy is offering Change Thrivers 2 free e-books. One called, 52 social media tips, are the rest of the tips given here. Simply go to www.changethrivers.com  and signup for our gifts and receive Kathy’s offering and an additional 11 downloadable gifts. Her other e-book is personal growth book called Reality TV and You. To receive visit www.RealityTVandYou.me. You can learn more about Kathy at www.KathyPerry.com.

Kathy also discussed the following during the show:

1. Is it possible to have a life while bringing our business into the online and social media revolution?
2. How does social media marketing compare to the traditional marketing?
3. Is Social Media Marketing only useful for internet based businesses or can local businesses also use it effectively?
4. We all know about Facebook, Twitter and Linked–in. What are some of the other tools to use for Social Media Marketing that are effective but not as apparent?
5. What is the difference in the application of Facebook, Linked-in, Twitter, etc.?
6. What is the Hub Socializer System? http://www.hubsocializer.com
7. How do you keep people interested and active on your SM pages?
8. How do you monetize all this effort of building relationships and offering free information?

About Kathy Perry:

As a Social Media Marketing Specialist, Kathy Perry works with entrepreneurs and small businesses who want to tap into the power of Social Media to grow their business and increase visibility. Her Hub Socializer system saves clients both time and money, without any fear of getting left behind or stuck in the social media maze. As a speaker, Kathy inspires her audiences and clients with her down-to-earth approach in dealing with everyday challenges and issues, from Social Media Marketing to Life/Work Balance. www.KathyPerry.com