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Magda had already gone to work. I was alone with the cat. I felt no motivation to do anything. I made a simple breakfast and went back to my favorite green recliner in the bedroom. I just sat there as I sipped my morning tea. In the depth of my shadow, feeling my worst, I was focused on my short comings and failures. Although, the part of me that is secure in the Divine Order of All things calmly observed the mayhem of my ego, my feelings were all wrapped up in beating myself up.

My wise, compassionate and generous life companion, Magda, called to check on me and I told her that I was having a hard morning. She reminded me that I could take the time to just be and let all these feeling percolate and their messages come to the surface. I stayed on the recliner listening to an enjoyable book when I fell asleep again. This time I rested and when I woke up, I felt better. The wave had passed and I could now look at what I understood from the experience.

After my mother passed away a month ago, I have been processing the experience and have decided to that in the next 4 months I will study and practice the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, the “ELF –Eternal Life Force” and the “Spiritual Entrepreneur” by Lauren McLaughlin, “The Power of Intention” by Wayne Dyer and “Mind is Your Own Business” by John McLaughlin. One of the most important messages in what I have learned already is understanding the importance of the role of ego in how I perceive reality and how I feel about it.

From Lauren and John McLaughlin, I learned a technique to name my ego. This was a very powerful exercise which helped me to examine the characteristics of my ego objectively. In order to name her, I had to pay attention to how my ego manifests in my life. “The Perfect Empress of Everything” is the name I chose because it is a very accurate description of my ego. In the process, I realized that when “Her Majesty” dominates my reality, I am held accountable to an unrealistic level of scrutiny to be “Perfect”. Among other things, The Empress also feels a sense of entitlement, ownership and responsibility for making the Change Thrivers Concept an international success. She is invested in being the well recognized teacher of the change thrivers message and leaving a legacy of good work behind. Anything short of that is failure.

The desire for success is of course perfectly legitimate. It provides an important goal for my ego to attain. The problem comes however, when my ego takes the center stage and gains dominance over how I perceive myself and how I feel as a result. My feeling of depression this morning was signaling that I did not perceive myself at the level of success that the Empress had envisioned for this far along the journey and therefore I was judging myself as having failed. It was important for me to allow myself the time to face these feelings long enough to understand what they were telling me. But I didn’t want to stay there.

Talking with a dear friend last week, I learned another very helpful method for shifting my feelings and raising my energy level. I begin by paying attention, “Am I feeling calm?” if I do, I am in the flow and open to my Source. If I don’t, then I am in resistance and pinching myself from the ever-flowing Source Energy. Resistance only comes when my ego is in charge and tries to control things and when she is not getting her way. When I feel bad, I am in resistance and to be in the flow I must shift to feeling good. When I reach a better feeling place like gratitude, I raise my level of consciousness and I can choose to surrender my fears to my Source.

In his book on the Power of Intention, Wayne Dyer quotes, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at, change.” Once I realized that I am feeling bad because I am not measuring to my ego’s expectations of me and I had a choice to see this in a different way, my ego lost its energy and her grip on me. As soon as I changed the way I perceived myself, my feelings began to change. Instead of seeing myself through the lens of my ego, I chose to remember that “I am God’s own perfect creation!”

As I began to prepare dinner, I thought about Dr. Dyer talking about the six ways that ego can keep us from connecting to the power of intention; the Creative Power that binds everything and everyone together. One way to pinch the flow of intention into my life is to see myself as my accomplishments. Today I felt separated from my Source because I bought into the belief that the success of Change Thrivers was all up to Me and I forgot that All things happen in Divine Order.

*One of the twelve daily affirmations that you can find at www.unitynow.com

Being in my mid- late 50′s and with my mother having passed away only 5 months ago, I find this to be true for me. I have been working on exactly this shedding of ego for the last 4 months. It is certainly a process of searching deep within myself and asking, What is important enough to me to spend my life energy on? Many things that mattered even 5 years ago, are now losing their grip on me.

What do you think? If you are middle aged, what is your experience?

I’ve learned…. That when you’re in love, it shows.

I’ve learned…. That just one person saying to me, ‘You’ve made my day!’ makes my day.

I’ve learned…. That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I’ve learned…. That being kind is more important than being right.

I’ve learned…. That you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I’ve learned…. That I can always pray for someone when I don’t have the strength to help him in some other way.

I’ve learned…. That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I’ve learned…. That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I’ve learned…. That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.

I’ve learned…. That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I’ve learned… . That we should be glad God doesn’t give us everything we ask for.

I’ve learned…. That money doesn’t buy class.

I’ve learned…. That it’s those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I’ve learned… That under everyone’s hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I’ve learned…. That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I’ve learned…. That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I’ve learned…. That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I’ve learned…. That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people Smarter than I am.

I’ve learned…. That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I’ve learned.. That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I’ve learned… That life is tough, but I’m tougher.

I’ve learned…. That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.

I’ve learned…. That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

I’ve learned…. That I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her one more time before she passed away.

I’ve learned…. That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I’ve learned…. That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I’ve learned…. That when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, that you’re hooked for life.

I’ve learned…. That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.

I’ve learned …. That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

Andy Rooney

ADHD: A New Brain For A New World

Has it been suggested to you that your child may have ADHD?  Has your child already been diagnosed with ADHD?  Are you looking for natural solutions because on some level you know drugs are only a band-aid and do not address the root causes of symptoms?  Do you work with ADHD children?  Whatever your reason for reading this book, buckle your seat-belt and get ready to unhook from the current mainstream ideas about ADHD and these trail-blazing children! Read the rest here

August 1, 2011
Guest: Cheryl Healey
Guest Website: The Gift of You

About the Show:
Why are so many sensitive children given a label of ADHD?  Why do the numbers keep increasing?  What can you as a parent do to help your child avoid this label and treat or avoid symptoms naturally?  Learn the big, complex picture of ADHD and how you can help these children whether you are a parent or a concerned individual.  The time is now to turn the tide for these kids.  The children will be glad you did and so will you!

Change Thrivers Tip by Cheryl Healy:
Sensitive children including ADHD and ADD kids have a higher sensory perception than norm. The can multi-task naturally and process more information which is suited to the exponentially increasing amount of information they are bombarded with.

Symptoms are mostly physical and usually a reaction to some kind of allergy. Allergies are extremely common in sensitive and ADHD children. They could be allergic to variety of things such as food preservatives, cleaning products, other chemicals and toxins.

You might like to check your children for three things:

1. Food Allergies
2. Leaky gut – a name used to describe intestinal or bowel hyperpermeability. Increased intestinal permeability begins with inflammation and irritation to the lining of the digestive tract. Over time, the intestinal lining begins to wear and break down. This forms large gaps between your intestinal cells which then allow toxins, pathogens, and undigested food particles to enter your bloodstream.
3. Toxins

Recommended Resources by Cheryl Healey:
Book: Healing the New Childhood Epidemics: Autism, ADHD, Asthma, and Allergies: The Groundbreaking Program for the 4-A Disorders: http://www.amazon.com/Healing-New-Childhood-Epidemics-Groundbreaking/dp/0345494512/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1310402879&sr=1-1

Websites: www.ADHDdiet.com

Documentaries: Food Inc. and Processed People

About Cheryl Healey:

Cheryl Healey is the creative and passionate Founder of The Gift of You Coaching and training programs.  With a heartfelt desire to help children and teens remember the gift they are and what they bring to this world, Cheryl is facilitating positive transformation. Working with children and teens with ADHD and their families looking for drug-free solutions evolved from Cheryl’s vision.  Growing up is challenging enough, but add ADHD to the mix and it’s even easier to feel like you don’t “fit in”. As a Wellness Coach and Empowerment Solution Provider, remarkable and energetic Motivational Speaker and Personal Development Teacher, Cheryl educates and inspires you and your child to try new things to create the life of your dreams.